Khandie’s Kholumn: A Social Media Whinge

Khandie Khisses

Log on to any of the countless social media network platforms out there and do you groan like I do at all the self-serving tosh you read?  ‘Oh wow I totally rock, I am super. I am… I am.’  Me me me!

Khandie Khisses (©Haley Richardson)
Khandie Khisses (©Haley Richardson)

I know we are meant to keep fans abreast of what we are doing, but how about a little less of ‘you the performer’ sometimes? God knows my Twitter is more about my opinions (though flawed, I am sure), on everything from toe nail extensions to tit tape to peeing outside, than actual burlesque itself. I still advertise what shows/gigs I am doing and similar carefully constructed 140 character insights into my showgirl life, but I have made a vested effort to let a little bit of my personality show. Yeah it might piss a few people off, but I ain’t going for this ‘I am so amazing, my life is amazing, etc.’ aura about myself.

In a world where the internet has pretty much opened our front room curtains for the world to peer in, I can understand not wanting to divulge all, but can we cut down on the self serving tosh? No one really wants to hear constantly from you how busy you are rhinestoning or rehearsing all day, every day. Burlesque is made up of performers who are so intelligent and knowledgeable in other areas, so why are some of us so reluctant to let people see it?

I often wonder if the constant flow of ‘me’ posting is merely marketing, but, if anything, I am more likely to unfriend/unfollow such people. As an entertainer you are expected to project a certain image, but if the current financial climate has taught us anything it is that we need to diversify to maintain our careers. This means allowing others to see brains behind the tassels. Show people your artwork; run competitions purely for certain social network groups, or hell – even post your views on the latest evictee from the next trashy reality show.  Sure, what we put still needs some level of self-censoring, but then we do that daily when we converse, so how about we don’t push our diamantes so far down people’s throats they think we are shallow, self centred divas? Instead, let us seek to challenge, educate or amuse our audiences in other ways.

I can’t help but feel that this false way of life we are projecting is implying we aren’t working hard, we get it easy and live a champagne life style which sets us apart from the grafters in the world.  How can we pave the way for  fledgling performers if they don’t see just how hard we work, who are we behind the glitter and what we stand for, if we don’t show it?

By the way, my twitter is @KhandieKhisses. Be warned, there is smut, geekery, opinions and occasional tit, but more worryingly it’s me being me, warts ‘n’ all.

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  • Well said Khandie!
    There is a fine line between maintaining the fantasy of luxury and glamour, and taking for granted the very hard work that performers put in to being professional entertainers.

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