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This edition brings a question from Bella Sin of Ohio, USA:
I have had this question in my mind for some time and I hope you can please shed some light upon it.
Recently I have attended some family friendly functions where there was a burlesque performer. The first thing I hear is, ‘This is a family friendly non-strip performance’. I paused and asked, ‘How can it be burlesque if there is no tease element?’ They stated there were children in attendance and she was not stripping. I waited for the performance. As she entered the stage fully dressed, she did remove articles of clothing down to a corset, underwear and bustle, and she also did do some suggestive moves. It was interesting for me to see the audience reaction – some looked away and took their children somewhere else and others were odd lookers that keep watching. But it really got me thinking – is burlesque a child friendly show even if there is no removal of clothing? Is it still burlesque or does it move to interpreted dance?
I have performed in Pride (LGBT celebration) and I do a full show, but I have always been uncomfortable with the fact that there are children in the audience, so I stop doing them. I myself offer a performance that is friendly to family, in my mind. I simply fan dance in full costume (i.e., In a full dress long gown and I title it ‘Fan Dancer’. There is no clothing removal and it’s always a classic song, is that still acceptable?)
I do not know if I’m becoming a prude or something like that but I just don’t feel like what I do is acceptable for children under 18 to see, and it furthers my mind to the idea that we are all going to love the body acceptance of it but when some ones little kid is 5 to 8 they don’t comprehend what that really is.
Please help clear my mind.
Thanks for your question. I’ve also been approached to do ‘family friendly’ or, even funnier, gigs where it’s all adults and they want a burlesque dancer (classic striptease) but no raunch, no ‘strip’. I’ve found this confusing because unless you’re doing the comedy/vaudeville/sideshow aspect of burlesque, you’re doing strip, and not stripping certainly takes the cherry, the frosting and the eggs out of the cake, doesn’t it?
I don’t think there’s such a thing as family friendly burlesque when it comes to the striptease dancer. We’re dealing in a language that talks about sexuality, and even if we weren’t to take something off, our costumes, movement and makeup are hypersexualised enough to cause questions in a child’s mind, regardless of whether they can articulate them. Just like many mothers wouldn’t want to see a Barbie come to life in front of their young children, I’m sure parents aren’t too keen on someone in fishnets parading to classic strip songs. It’s a language that, regardless of cognitive understanding, I think translates. There is no other purpose for the shimmy except to titillate. The bump invokes the thoughts of bumping with another in the night. The grind? FORGETABOUTIT.
A fan dance with clothes is an interesting concept in that I absolutely don’t think this would be seen as striptease in description, especially since you’re not removing clothes. However, are the movements suggestive? The fluttering, the close and reveal (the fan dance is all about the ‘hide and reveal’) – it’s a big flirtatious dance typically, and the movements suggest that we should be admiring the body they frame.
Personally, I don’t do ‘family friendly’ events. I’m not a family friendly performer, and that’s alright with me. If they ask me to be, I suggest clowns, jugglers and aerialists to them that I think would be the trick, and I also let them know that, in my estimation, there is no such thing as ‘family friendly’ when it comes to us strippers.
Always ask about events that aren’t already set out to be 18+; if there’s a possibility that children might be able to attend, make sure that the advertising notes you as a STRIPTEASE act, and that the MC gives a friendly warning. After that, dance your heart out. You’ve done what you can and they should remove their children if they’re uncomfortable. You don’t need to be held accountable for any different parenting that’s going on.
Use your best judgement!
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